Thursday, October 20, 2016

We Can Do Better

I have lived in the same community my entire life.  It is where I was born, raised and chose to stay as an adult.  Yes there were times that I contemplated leaving, mostly in and directly after high school, but small town mountain life always won.

I have been involved in the community as well.  I taught dance at the local dance studio for years, as a teenager I umpired for Little League, I boycotted when our lake was taken over by a corporation, I ran for a local board and I have stood up for the small town way of life.

Over summer a local sports organization was looking for board members and made it seem like everything was easy and it was all for the kids.  I agreed to help out.  While I do not resent my choice, I do feel exhausted by the treatment of some of these people I work alongside to make the organization better for the kids.  Or is it really making the organization better for the kids?  Maybe it is about egos and fear of failure.

When we sign up to volunteer, we are doing so out of the kindness of our being and if someone is choosing to volunteer for a gold star they had better seek that somewhere else.  I have noticed a trend in our world today where we do not help unless we are helping ourselves.  I will admit I am guilty of this...  I signed up to give me something to do, to be part of my community, to make it a better place for families and children.

I did not sign up to be treated like visions are garbage or to be a whipping post.  I am just thankful my anger has been kept under control, because at times I cannot control the words that come out of my mouth.

My point is, if you volunteer and start losing sight of the reason you are doing it in the first place it is time to take a break.  No one is forcing you to show up.  Unless of course it is your ego.  In that case you definitely need the break.  It is not ok to belittle people who ask questions.  You don't have to have the answer and if you don't let someone else answer or simply say, "I don't know."

We have become lazy and stagnant in the amazing things we can create for the kids in our lives and communities.  It is about thinking outside of the box and pushing yourself to your limits so that these kids see actual real life role models.  These kids will grow into adults and they will remember poignant moments in their lives, why not be someone who helped create those memories?

Wednesday, October 19, 2016

Pumpkin Love

With the cooler weather here (we even had fog on Monday!) I am feeling in the fall spirit more and more as each day goes by.  Time is running out so I highly doubt I will be making it to any pumpkin patches, but that doesn't stop my love for pumpkin, with exception to the PSL, (barf!).

I do, however, believe I still have time to get a few of these things done-

Pumpkin Spice Cookies

What are you doing with pumpkin?

Thursday, October 13, 2016

'Tis The Season For Cuffing

Last year I posted all about cuffing season, you can read it here.  As anti "cuffing" as I am, I must admit there is an appeal that I never really saw before:

Netflix and chill will really mean Netflix and chill with no secret underlying meaning.  You can both be beat up from a long day and literally just hang out on the couch and watch tv and maybe pizza.

Awkward booty calls become non-existent because everyone and their mother knows you are "cuffed" away until at least St. Patrick's Day.

You have reached the point in your "cuffing" relationship where it is ok to wear sweats and no make up.  Hello to comfort and healthier skin.

You can use them as an excuse to get out of dreaded holiday functions.."Oh the company Christmas party?  I can't, that is so and sos family gathering.  Thanks though."

Brunch is now a time to actually venture into the world.  Is it just me, or have y'all noticed that brunch has taken the place of a Saturday night date?  Better yet if you get brunch followed by a Saturday night date... I am not one to judge.

John Mayer's "St. Patrick's Day" actually makes more sense in terms of whatever your relationship is or isn't.

The awkward phase of what are you and what aren't you has flown out the window until spring arrives.

No more awkward questions regarding why you are single at family functions in the coming months.

Sometimes "cuffing" turns into more... Much more.

Tuesday, October 11, 2016

Coffee... A Love Affair

My love affair with coffee began as a child... I was probably 8 or 9, I can't really remember, but what I do remember is coming home from elementary school and pouring myself a mug of my mom's left over coffee and nuking it in the microwave.  I would dump an endless amount of sugar and milk (it was before creamer and if it wasn't, my parents weren't buying that sweet elixir.)  into it and settle on the couch to watch the after school reruns of "Saved By The Bell" (it was also the 90's).

As I got older my relationship with coffee was strengthened through Starbucks popping up on every corner.  I was the girl that took travel mugs of coffee with me to high school and into college.  If you ever saw me between the hours of 7 a.m. and 10 a.m. you can guarantee you saw my travel mug or even the familiar white 'bucks cup in my hand.  Coffee has fueled me through late night study sessions to early morning adventures and vice versa.

 At 19 I went to work for a financial institution and it was there that my love for coffee became an obsession.  There were constantly two pots of coffee brewing and numerous types of creamers in the fridge.  Each week we would put money in to buy the most delicious looking jogs of creamer.  I kid you not when I say I was a pot and a half of coffee a day girl.  It was insanity.  

After I left and started my new job I almost had a mental breakdown when I headed to the break room and discovered that not one single person in my office drank coffee...  No more wonderful cups of magic-ness in the middle of a crappy day.  No more walking around with my mug, no more afternoon pick me ups.  This was the hardest adjustment I had to adult life... That coffee wasn't an all day every day thing.

Most mornings I can no longer function on less than a cup and definitely cannot function on more than three cups.  I now know my lack of sleep was from late afternoons of coffee consumption.  So while I have cut back on you coffee, just remember I still turn to you to make me a functioning morning person at work.  Please don't ever leave me.

Wednesday, October 5, 2016

Currently: October

It is time for "Currently" with Anne of Anne In Residence and her co-host Jacqui from Drink the Day blog for what is going on in October.

Cheers-ing- Fall and all of its glorious cooler temperatures (even though the weather man claims 80 degree days will be back this weekend).  It is making me want to pour up a few caramel apple mimosas.    

Organizing- My closet and shoes are ready to be rotated for the fall/winter collection.  This means LOTS and LOTS of reorganizing is going down in my house this month.

Dreaming- A vacation sounds nice right about now.  This year is the first year in 10 years that I did not schedule a full week off of work.  I may be a bit insane, but paying off debt was a little more important to me than flying across the country.  It's all about choices.

Buying- With it being fall and all of that goodness, the only thing on my list are a few pumpkins and maybe a few decorations...  Which I probably don't need.  

Listening- I am scouring the internet for the perfect cheer mix/ competition song.  This is hard work, but will be so worth it at the end of the season!

What are you up to?

Tuesday, October 4, 2016

Brady Is Back!

Can I just say thank you to the high heavens that Brady is back?!?!

After New England's shut out at Gillette to the Bills on Sunday my heart has been hurting.  I still don't really understand what the heck happened?  What I do know is that Tom is back and our future is AFC Championship into Super Bowl where we will win, because that is the kind of faith that fans have.

I will leave you with these GIFS and memes, please enjoy!

Friday, September 30, 2016

Become Your Own Matchmaker, Chapters 4-6

If you missed my recap on chapters 1-3 of Patti Stanger's book "Become Your Own Matchmaker" , read here.  I will not lie this book is getting harder and harder to read.  Most likely due to the fact that the information Patti shares is completely repetitive.

Chapter 4 was all about the types of men not to date and the ones to date.  For instance, I now know that I should seek a relationship with "Gary the Great Friend" as he will most likely be someone that goes at my pace and will have always been there... somewhere in the background silently cheering me on while I chase down and obtain dreams.  It is also all about finding your top ten must haves and five non-negotiable traits of your soulmate.  I will not lie to y'all, I didn't do this, because it seemed tedious.  I guess I will never find my soulmate now.

Learning to love dating was the jist of chapter 5.  Patti is teaching her readers how to enjoy dating and what to talk about.  Never mention that you stalked him via social media, apparently that no-brainer bodes ill for the outcome of the relationship.  This is where things start to get repetitive.  We all kow that it is important to be charming, not to call him, to always wait for him to call you, never allow him to make last minute plans, etc.  This chapter goes back to the dating advice of our mothers
and grandmothers.  She also reiterates the fact that we should never put all of our eggs in one basket.  There are three types of men we need to keep around until "the one" makes his move.

Six brought on the steps of the relationship from the honeymoon phase all the way up to the engagement and BAM you are married with 2.5 kids, a dog and minivan (please God, not a minivan).   In all honestly chapter six was a tough read for me so I skimmed it.  Patti again tells us which rules we must play by and how t get what we want.

Next week I will wrap it up with 7 & 8 and whether or not I plan to take Patti and her rules to the streets for a try out.