Friday, April 20, 2018

"Seredipdating"

On Tuesday, Yahoo shared an article with a brand new dating term -Serindipdating.  This was added to a long list of other dating words that describe the dating scene for us singles out in the world including, but not limited to:

Benching
Ghosting
FWB
Haunting
Tuning
Bread-crumbing
Cuffing

There are a few others and this article here tells you all about them and their wonderful descriptions.

Back to "serindipdating"... Here is the short break down, you basically avoid making dates or commitment for fear of missing out on something better; you complain of no spark, while seeking a spark that may never come; you plan your white picket fence dreams on a significant other whose perfection isn't realistic; all the while, good guys are right in front of you and you "just don't feel it".

Won't lie, I am very guilty of this and so are many of the single people I know and have dated.  I have gone on dates that seem great, only to be "ghosted", "benched" and whatever other lame term there is to describe men who have absolutely no balls to tell you they are not interested and I have completely stopped talking to guys who come on too strong.  In my defense, most of them didn't take "no" too kindly so there was no other choice.

A few weeks ago I went on a date with E and we had, what I thought was, a good time.  Good enough for him to hand over an expensive bottle of wine at the end of the date... The date that ended so awkwardly it seemed surreal...   Have I heard from him?  Yes he texted me when he trekked back down to the city and made it safely home.  Other than that, no.  I have texted a couple of times and he has responded, but I don't have the energy to chase a dude around who is seemingly not interested, or rather looking for something different.

Did he come out and say that?  No, but in today's world with texting, Instagram, Snap, Bumble, and Tinder, among other things, his silence has said enough.  There hasn't been a suggestion for a second date other than my own suggestion, which he said "sure" to but I have yet to see that come to fruition.  I mean, he really could be busy, but after three weeks I am not buying that.  What will be will be.

As a society, dating apps and texting have ruined our chances at an actual connection, because we are constantly seeking something more meaningful, while only getting to know people superficially.  This is why I have a two date minimum.  I won't make a decision on a guy until the end of the second date, because first dates are awkward as hell, but "serindipdating" is preventing many second dates or even first dates from occurring.

The only way I see these dating trends ending is for people to go back to values and morals instilled in older generations where we respected ourselves enough to not want a bad reputation; where we respected other people's feelings enough to be honest; and where we made true human connections beyond looks, social status, and really looked for happiness and laughter.

We have all gotten so caught up in the next "match" and "like" that most of us have forgotten who are and until we come back to ourselves we will never be able to find a person we deem worthy enough to settle down with.







Thursday, April 19, 2018

Bath and Body Works Free Candle

This deal is too good NOT to share- Right now when you spend $40 or more, you not only get FREE shipping (which is a huge deal since they never give free shipping) but you also get a FREE 3-wick Peach Bellini scented candle!  All you have to do is buy $40 before tax and use code "PEACHY" at checkout. PLUS... ALL 3- wicks are $12.95 ( normally $22.50-24.95)!

Here are a few of my must haves!

Fresh Cut Lilac Candle

Fresh Balsam

Washed Ashore Hand Soap Bundle
Don't forget "PEACHY" at checkout and come back and let me know what you picked up!



Wednesday, April 11, 2018

Good Reads- 52 Book Challenge


I love reading, which shouldn't be surprising as I love writing.  For me, the two go together like peas and carrots... I also love Forest Gump, but that is another blog for another day.  Anyways back to this post, because I love reading, but haven't really done a whole lot of it lately I decided to sign up for Good Reads's book challenge of 52 books by January 1st, 2019.

This may not seem like a lot, but I signed up in March, which means I lost a few weeks. So far I have 11 books done and I am sure 3 of them were counted twice, but I am taking it... For now.  I could legitimately catch up... fingers crossed!


So far I have read mostly smutty romance novels which is completely okay with me as they are a quick read and typically easy to set down and come back to when time allows.  I have also signed up for Amazon's Kindle Unlimited.  That was hands down the best decision I could have made, because I can "rent" books and return them which means I don't have 500 million books on the cloud.

Basically, I’m begging y’all for good book recs!

This reading challenge has also made me realize how much I would love to be a part of a book club again. However, I have NO intentions of taking that bull by the horns, so if anyone has an idea of an online one, please let me know. 




Friday, March 23, 2018

Going Keto


Well the time has come to admit that I am really going to commit to 30 days of Keto (at the very least).  If you haven't heard of the Keto way, here is a quick breakdown- You limit yourself to 25 grams of carbohydrates at most, up your fat intake, and maintain about 135 grams of protein.  Basically it is a high fat way of eating to put your body into Ketosis which makes your body produce ketones from the liver and help you burn fat and stored fat rather than the carbs you take in.  Don't worry, it doesn't seem all to difficult to figure out Ketosis, especially when you can buy strips to pee on to verify that you are in Ketosis.

The reason I chose Keto is because as much as I love Whole 30, I miss my cheese like a fat kid misses cake.  It is my one true dieting weakness.  Also, Whole 30 tells you to avoid counting calories, because everything "whole" is considered good.  For me in summer that is great, but right now it isn't so hot.   I am not sure that Keto is necessarily good for the rest of my life, but it is worth a shot, especially because I have struggled with weight my entire life.  I know calorie counting and exercise are the key to maintaining weight and living a healthy lifestyle, however, I have plateaued and all I can blame is age... Hahahaha.

I will miss tortilla chips and watermelon, but truthfully I don't eat either of those as often as my mind thinks I do.  I know it is going to be difficult and there may be days when I don't do as good as I plan to, but the thing that matters the most is that I keep going and remember there is a reason to my madness.

Anyone else doing Keto or have tips and tricks?

Thursday, March 1, 2018

South Dakota Chronicles: Day 3 and 4

Saturday was our third day in South Dakota.  We woke up with slight hangovers and to snow serenely falling from the sky.  As with any trip, late nights call for late to mid afternoon mornings, which meant we didn't even leave our hotel room until close to 11 a.m..  We moseyed down Main Street looking for a place for brunch.  The best thing about this town is that you do not need a car to get anywhere, everything is in walking distance.

We weren't sure what we would find, but down at the end of Main Street lies The Nugget Saloon with a sign that read, ""best Bloody Marys in town" so naturally we had to go in.  The Nugget Saloon is a quaint bar with s tore and a dinner attached through side walls.  We grabbed a table and Liam served us the BEST Bloody Marys along with a pizza, a few appetizers and a few too many beers.  Our entertainment came in the form of the digital juke box and the bachelorette party that was wasted by 2:00 p.m..  Sitting in the bar, watching the snow fall outside was the perfect way to spend the day.

After losing all day to The Nugget, we headed back to the Deadwood Distillery where we picked up our moonshine and souvenirs and listened to a few more of Paul's stories.  That man in and of himself is reason enough to go to Deadwood.  You will not hear more colorful and intriguing stories than those of Paul's life.  I told him he needs a blog or better yet, a book!

We dropped our loot at the hotel and headed down to the winery/brewery in the middle of town.  We tried a local selection of brews and were fascinated to hear how beer and wine are sold in South Dakota.  It is an interesting process and a bit pricey for the small guys to compete with the big guys.

Next we found ourselves at the Deadwood Social Club for dinner.  It was AMAZING!  We ordered the bruschetta and scallop appetizers, ribeye special and the seafood pasta.  Everything was delicious and the pasta was an absolute work of art.

 After dinner we found ourselves back at The Bloody Nose Saloon since it was our favorite.  The bachelor party from the night before and the tree of us were the only patrons and it turned into quite the hilarious evening.  Somehow the three of us decided a 4-legged race was in order.  I can tell you, all those boys from the bachelor party got pretty excited when we pulled out the tape... Pervs.  From the pictures it looks like I could barely walk, haha.

We headed back to our room as the bars were closing, made snow angles in the streets and were surprised by how much pizza Deadwood sells as soon as the bars close.  I am not even kidding, every singel place sells pizzas by the slice or whole.  For me, I was a bit behooved as I personally would take some 7-11 nachos at 3 a.m. after drinking all day long.  Thank goodness for our Walmart outing where we supplied ourselves with plenty of snacks.

Sunday morning we hit the road and ended up at Mount Rushmore.  It is still as breathtaking as it was the first time I saw it.  A person can't help but stand in wonder at how one man with a vision created one of our nation's greatest masterpieces.  I truly prefer ending my trips to South Dakota with a visit to Rushmore, because it feels like a great place to give thanks to America.

Not long after we were on a plane bound for home. 

South Dakota feels like home and I miss it immensely and I truly cannot wait to get back to that gem of a mountain town tucked away int he Black Hills.

Thursday, February 8, 2018

South Dakota Chronicles: Day 2

Day 2 was rough, but not as rough as it could have been.  We all were up and out the door and on our way to the local WalMart to pick up snacks and beer for the rest of our journey.  Typically there aren't many differences in shopping out of state, yet we all had mild panic attacks because we didn't bring reusable bags with us.  Please insert your laughter here.

Another thing we learned on this trip is that hard alcohol has to be sold at a separate counter.  You can purchase beer and wine all day long, but not the hard stuff.  It is like that in Canada and most red states and for whatever reason, it makes me laugh.  One great thing was the assortment of local breweries and Leinenkugels.  It was like I hit the lotto and now I need to plan a trip to Chippewa Falls, WI.

Before we knew it, we were on our way to the Badlands.  If you haven't heard of the Badlands, it is part of the National Parks where rugged mountains, spires and prairie grass meet and the bison, long horn sheep and prairie dogs roam.  It is absolutely breath taking and a moment of pure "aw" at how beautiful our Earth really is.  We trekked through a few places of wilderness, passed bison, and drove curvy mountain roads... Well not overly curvy since it is a Plains state.

After the Badlands, we headed to Deadwood, the town of my heart.  I don't know what it is about this little town, but I love it and each time I go I can envision myself becoming a local and walking down the street greeting the business owners like old friends... (I must have watched too many Hallmark movies at Christmas).

We stayed at the Historic Franklin Hotel.  This is where I am an awful blogger, I have zero photos of the gorgeous hotel.  Built in the early 1900's, the hotel has kept its luxurious charm.  The rooms have been updated, but are still small.

After checking in, we headed out on the small town.  We found The Deadwood Distillery had opened and was connected with The Bloody Nose Saloon.  Jeanine, Sam and Paul were amazing to us.  Paul handles the moonshine tastings at the Distillery and has a boat load of stories to share.  I highly recommend the Distillery and the Bloody Nose.

We even made friends with a family from Montana while we tasted the variety of moonshines.

We finished the night at The Bloody Nose playing pool, the punching bag game, eating popcorn and making new friends.  One thing I learned, Deadwood is the Vegas of the Midwest.  We met a bachelor party of 35 guys from Minnesota.  They were absolutely hilarious and became our buddies.

I absolutely love the friendliness of the Midwest and can't wait to tell y'all about Day 3!


Friday, February 2, 2018

February- Goal Catch Up and Review

As you all know I REALLY failed in January at the recipe part of my New Year's goals (you can read that post here for a quick refresher).

Getting back to basics- I did go on vacation last month, but I did REALLY good.  I didn't buy an entirely new wardrobe, nor did I come home with a bag full of souvenirs.  Moonshine and a shot glass did make their way into my luggage, but I was okay with that.  I have also budgeted and for all things in February helping me out with a no spend February.

Recipe- Yeah, I only made one new thing... It was that wonderfully delicious pork tenderloin that I will make again, because holy oh my goodness was it good.  Perhaps I should knock my goal from one new recipe a week to one in a month?  That is hardly a challenge though....

Healthy Wage-... Yeah I still haven't signed up.  I am thinking tax return time and I will, seeing as I am on a spending freeze and all.

Cleaner eating- Y'all I have been so good at this and I can teel it has been good for me.  Obviously vacation Kristie wasn't so good, but c'est la vie.

Blogging- I have been getting better and better.  Plus I still have a few posts regarding my amazing time in South Dakota.

I am really looking forward to February.  It is a new month which is a new beginning.

How do you plan to use this month?